Jan
14
Ok, so this has been on my mind for a while (ie... the past week) but still.Do you believe in destiny or chance? Let's define the terms so we are all on the same page.
Destiny: refers to a predetermined course of events. It may be conceived as a predetermined future, whether in general or of an individual. It is a concept based on the belief that there is a fixed natural order to the cosmos.
Chance: refers an unknown and unpredictable phenomenon that causes an event to result one way rather than another.
There you have the definitions. One being the exact opposite of the other and yet not an antonym but merely a different perspective or outlook the future.
On the one side, a person who believe in destiny sees it as "What will happen in the future" whereas the individual influenced by chance views it as "What might happen in the future." Both are totally up to the mind of a person. BUT the one that you choose will change how you go about most things in life.
The point was brought up in a conversation with my sister in regards to two friends of ours who are both in their thirties and single and both wanting more than anything to be married with children before forty.
One friend believes in chance. Could she meet "Mr. Right" at the gym today? Maybe... so she goes to the gym... And to the company picnic, and to the toast masters club... etc. Whatever it takes, she'll do it... because she doesn't want to miss her chance at finding 'the one'.
Now in the other opposing corner, we have our friend who believes that 'the one' is out there and that she and he are meant to be together - she believes in destiny. No doubt about it. When the time is right, they'll meet, fall in love, the whole nine yards. So she doesn't go out to meet men at the bar, because why should she? He's out there... that one man she will spend the rest of her life with. There's no need for her to meet a ton of wrong ones if the right one is on his way, Right?
I guess it's all about perspective. Is the glass half empty or half full? I don't think either way is wrong or pessimistic, I just think it is funny to see how we can all be so similar and yet so vastly different.
In case you were wondering, I think I'd have to put myself in the 'chance' category. Maybe because i'm more of a number person - the more people you meet, the greater your odds are in meeting the right one for you.
However, I'm not going to lie, never having to go out on awkward dates sounds like a GREAT idea to me lol.... at least, my wallet won't be complaining.
I'm definitely a destiny person. Isn't it funny how some things just work out perfectly?